Robert and I met at work. He was already working there when I started. I was 22 at the time and so was he. After working together for over a year and becoming good friends, we were both in a nightclub in Glasgow at the same time and well the rest is history. Dating back then was fun and getting to know each other outside of work was exciting. We were friends, really good friends and this helped us build a strong foundation.
An engagement, baby boy, wedding, another baby boy and a few years later a baby girl, and here we are. Still going strong, best friends and soulmates. Yes we’ve had our ups and downs, but the ups have certainly outweighed the downs. We still work together and for us it’s never been an issue as we’ve never known any different. Robert did leave work for less than a few years, but came back. And it was strange not to have him there. I’ve had a little bit of maternity leave in that time.
We don’t get out as often as a couple nowadays to dinner, the cinema or to the pub for a few drinks. With having a baby, fitting in sleep trumps over paying money to go into the cinema to sleep!! When we just had the boys, we got out to the cinema, I just had to go and see the Twilight movies and my wonderful husband, who had no interest in them, always came with me. Held my hand and shared my popcorn. No which guy would go and see this, ask you about it and not complain he had to go see a chick flick with a sparkly vampire? That’s love!!
To keep our relationship alive, we tell each other we love each other at least once a day and it still makes my heart swell to hear it. He tells me how beautiful I look before we go out or I am going out somewhere. But most important to us is our Saturday night. We try not to plan anything that night, you know sometimes things come up that can’t be changed, but ideally we try to spend a Saturday evening together, no phones, no computers, no tablets, just us. Mainly we stay in, snuggle on the couch with a take-away and a drink. We catch up on our favourite TV shows. Mainly vampire ones, either he’s too nice to say he doesn’t like them or they’ve grown on him! We love this evening. This is what makes us feel special, wanted and fuzzy inside. The kids are in bed and it’s just him and I.
This weekend we are planning on going out on a date night. I got some tips from expert Matthew Hussy from Get The Guy.
- pamper yourself before you go out so you feel good about yourself.
- wear something like a piece of jewellery or a scent you used to wear to remind your partner and you of when you first started dating. Scent is the best way to access emotion.
- Compliment your partner. – Try to find something you’ve never said before.
- Flirt, by touch or simply with a look.
- Talk about current interests and find something to get excited about together.
- Learn something new that you can bring those world together.
- Initiate affection and interaction.
My favourite piece of advice; Live in the present, dream of the future and leave the past behind.
We will be going out for a lovely meal together to chat and enjoy each others company.
Do you still go out on date nights with your partner?
Disclaimer:- I was given some money by Head and Shoulders to go out on a date night, that was lovely of them I thought.
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