I was a very quiet and shy child, I had little confidence and I felt this held me back. I recently spoke to a friend I grew up with and we both discussed how it held us back and what we would do differently. You can’t give your child confidence, but you can nurture it, help it along and watch it grow.
Lucas is a quiet child, well quietly spoken anyway, but is very active. Being the oldest, it wasn’t until he went to nursery before he started interacting with children outside of the family. I always worried that I wasn’t helping his confidence grow, as I instilled my fears of my school years on him. When he started school he was still very quiet and shy. Now he’s in Primary 4 and recently I experienced that proud mummy moment of watching Lucas on stage, not once, but 4 times being a sailor in the schools production of Jonah a Fishy Tale. He had a few lines, sung and danced at all the right parts. He got louder in his performance with each one. Most importantly he enjoyed it and wanted to do it.
As everyone knows who follows me, Lucas is a huge football fan. He plays it from morning to night and constantly, had a ball at his feet. Much to my displeasure when it hits off something in the living room. Anywhere else, like outside I don’t mind, in fact I encourage it. He plays for a team and his dad is one of the coaches. So he can take a fair bit of credit here. Watching him play over the last 4 and a half years has been incredible. He’s come on leaps and bounds and the enthusiasm he brings to the game is one of sheer joy.
Wearing glasses is as big a deal as it was back when I was a child, so many kids wear them these days and the glasses look great. Most kids want glasses and are disappointed when they don’t need them. Glasses have never stopped Lucas doing anything, but one thing that has gained him confidence is getting him Sports Goggles. These are glasses which you can buy from Optical Express which help protect the eye area from the ball, bumps or even from falling off your face. They have a spongy layer behind the glasses, the lenses are made of toughened plastic and there is a strap to go around your head to stop it from falling off. These have given him the confidence to get in there and get the ball. These are definitely one of the best things we have ever bought in, to help with his sports. He’s used them for rugby and all sorts of sports, they aren’t just for football. He’s still got a long way to go, but he’s eager to learn and a joy to watch.
He even got to play for his school team on Saturday. He was chuffed to bits. They only play the older ones in the school, hence the kit being miles too big. Sorry about the picture, I was helping indoors and someone else took it. But it was a moment captured. And again a moment where I watched his confidence grow.
Our school helps a lot with the children’s confidence, encouraging everyone of them to do something on stage twice a year from when they start. By the time they are leaving, the confidence oozes from everyone of them. Also talking in front of their peers, they love to do this as they have done it from day one. I was a lot older and it was terrifying. These kids are great, I’ve had meetings with them at the school and they can hold their own and some in front of adults. I cannot wait to see Lucas grow and shine.
Children have taught me that you can’t make them have confidence, you can’t make them be what you’d like them to be. They are their own little, wonderful and inspiring person. You can nurture them, you can help and encourage them and praise them in all the wonderful things they do. Take a step back and look at the amazing little person you have and know you are helping along the way.
What other’s ways can I help confidence grown in my children? Does your child use sports goggles? I’d love to hear about it.